tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.comments2022-06-13T22:00:56.981-07:00Tales of Holbo ShirePer Holbohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-85343980683414364282022-06-13T22:00:56.981-07:002022-06-13T22:00:56.981-07:00First time reading this blog thanks for sharingFirst time reading this blog thanks for sharingEvan Staffordhttps://www.evanstafford.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-54361773487934019232012-07-12T07:55:13.195-07:002012-07-12T07:55:13.195-07:00Thank you for your comment and you praise (seems y...Thank you for your comment and you praise (seems you got that point clearly: I love being praised... ;-))<br /><br />And my point is exactly that: give your love in a way you know it will be well recieved, because trying to communicate in your spouse´s love language is an expression of love in itself...<br /><br />regards, PerPer Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-48933209495495536532012-07-11T10:03:12.593-07:002012-07-11T10:03:12.593-07:00I agree with you. Like your wife, I also appreciat...I agree with you. Like your wife, I also appreciate when my husband does thing for me. Gifts are nice, but when he does laundry or takes care of dinner, I feel like he recognizes the fact that I have a lot of responsibilities, and he loves me enough to want to make my life a little easier by sharing those tasks. Great blog!M. E. Francohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12879665164475479116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-23915598964516766942012-07-10T04:11:12.911-07:002012-07-10T04:11:12.911-07:00Hi Mark,
I agree! Using the word 'suffer'...Hi Mark,<br /><br />I agree! Using the word 'suffer' may be a bit too strong. My point is that whatever you decide to do with your work ctr. family life, your kids will be the ones who must bare the consequences...<br /><br />regards, PerPer Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-72984076087947598362012-07-05T07:03:29.901-07:002012-07-05T07:03:29.901-07:00I think a better way to say it is: Children can su...I think a better way to say it is: Children can suffer, but they don't have to. If you make a concrete plan of action and stay on top of things I think both parents working is fine. Having four kids instead of the traditional two makes it tougher, because it takes longer for them to grow up and not need as much care and attention.Mark Deutschhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02657964285111110546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-27837643517668215352012-07-05T06:07:30.467-07:002012-07-05T06:07:30.467-07:00Hi Franco,
Thank you for leaving your comment.
Yo...Hi Franco,<br /><br />Thank you for leaving your comment.<br />You hit my point spot on: it´s all about making a decision that makes sense for you and your family. A good solution for one family may be completely wrong for another - and - a good solution for your family right now may be wrong later in your life...<br /><br />It´s all about revising your schedules and the way you arrange your lives together as a family...<br /><br />Regards, PerPer Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-86803265811223925842012-07-04T09:50:27.383-07:002012-07-04T09:50:27.383-07:00My husband and I changed our schedules. We were pa...My husband and I changed our schedules. We were paying so much money for child care that it was cheaper for me not to work when you added in gas, food, and office clothes. I started my own consulting business, so I could stay at home with the kids and only work when they are in school or when my husband is home. It is a difficult choice, and you have to be willing to compromise.M. E. Francohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12879665164475479116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-61886223451194261692012-06-25T01:44:14.351-07:002012-06-25T01:44:14.351-07:00True, Anonymous... Although these truth's were...True, Anonymous... Although these truth's weren't even new at the time. They have been stated by other's long before Kierkegaard - only with much lesser impact...<br /><br />The question is: were Kirkegaard's words really understood in his own time? And are they now?<br /><br />Looking at a world, where supermodels and rock stars are idolized in a most unhealthy way, it doesn't seem so. And I think that most of us follow the general norm much more than we usually believe, even if that norm is to be different and stand out...<br /><br />Regards, PerPer Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-65605536106182900722012-06-24T15:26:33.808-07:002012-06-24T15:26:33.808-07:00"The philosopher Soren Kierkegaard said that ..."The philosopher Soren Kierkegaard said that a human being doesn´t really exist before he chooses himself. This may sound strange, but what I´ve found to Kierkegaard´s point really isn´t rocket science."<br /><br />Well, it's not rocket science now, since Kierkegaard's ideas have permeated our culture; but back in his day, it wasn't so obvious that was the case.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-70446178022305086072012-05-31T11:36:51.545-07:002012-05-31T11:36:51.545-07:00Hi, Anonymous, who ever you are...
I´m glad you f...Hi, Anonymous, who ever you are...<br /><br />I´m glad you found my articles useful. I understand your feelings about being spanked as i kid, because I´ve been there myself. However, I´ve found it most useful to let it go. I know it sounds a bit too easy, but the fact is: letting go is the best way to protect yourself. When someone hurts you, the hurt is not as much the act in itself, but much more it is how your emotional life is affected by the act. By letting go, it can´t hurt you anymore. By not letting go, it´ll continue hurting you...Per Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-73519697326713280472012-05-29T15:07:16.862-07:002012-05-29T15:07:16.862-07:00Thank you for the article. I still feel coldness a...Thank you for the article. I still feel coldness and hatred towards my father for the way he used to spank us. Thanks forsharing your very sound views on parenting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-13243571034006573362012-05-17T10:13:46.414-07:002012-05-17T10:13:46.414-07:00I agree totally - Hitting people as "discline...I agree totally - Hitting people as "discline/education" is barbaric. However some of us can enjoy safe, sane and consensual spanking as adults while abhoring such treatment elsewhere! Kind regards from a non-violent spankee - Suzee Moon xxx <br />ps I've challenged the "survivors" who claim it didn't do them any harm/made them better/taught them respect etc. Not yet met one who was beaten once then reformed!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-23489980773131920372012-04-22T03:10:58.034-07:002012-04-22T03:10:58.034-07:00Hi Jessica,
Thanks for the comment and sorry it t...Hi Jessica,<br /><br />Thanks for the comment and sorry it took me so long getting to it...<br />I don´t know if there is a language issue here... What I mean is that when dealing with people forgetting tresspasses from the past is a very good way of building a strong relationship...<br /><br />regards, PerPer Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-40318202862442055692012-04-21T10:25:32.163-07:002012-04-21T10:25:32.163-07:00A blank sheet used to be my worst enemy! As a writ...A blank sheet used to be my worst enemy! As a writer. As a student or young woman, a blank sheet made me contrary and rebel.Trust me it helped me build my skills in deception. Ha.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-10085043719249735802012-04-19T01:23:31.628-07:002012-04-19T01:23:31.628-07:00Thanks, Mandy, for that comment. It really emphasi...Thanks, Mandy, for that comment. It really emphasizes what I´m trying to say here. I was raised with spanking (have some pretty funny stories about it, too!) and my parent did what they did, because that´s what they were supposed to do in those days. This is not to say, that what they did was okay. However, this is in the past and what I want to do is look forward to the future: how do I want to raise my children. So, basically, I´ve forgiven my parents a long time ago.<br /><br />One thing, though: my parents never felt too high on the horse to apologize, when they believed they´d been doing something wrong! That´s one of the most precious teaching I´ve taken with me from my childhood. My father was particularly strict and stubborn, but if he did something wrong and knew it to be wrong, he would always sit down with us and say in a very straight forward manner: 'I thought you were lying to me and I just found out, I was wrong. I am sorry. Please forgive me.'<br /><br />I think that this is perhaps one of the main reasons, I´ve found it fairly easy to forgive: He did, what he thought was best and though it wasn´t always best, he didn´t do it for the wrong reasons and he was willing to apologize and ask for forgiveness...<br /><br />And I believe you´re absolutely right about showing the way being the better option. Here in Denmark, we have a nick name for the plastic poles standing on each side of the road: we call them 'false prophets' because they only show the way, but they don´t walk it themselves...Per Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-89012976256993134422012-04-19T01:02:57.333-07:002012-04-19T01:02:57.333-07:00There are so many ideas forcibly driven into our h...There are so many ideas forcibly driven into our heads, in the interest of raising children the way the previous generation was raised. Respect your elders, simply because they are old; it is acceptable for the strong to bully the smaller and weaker ones, in order to force that respect; Children should be seen but not heard; always say, "Please," "thank you" and "I'm sorry" whenever commanded to regardless of whether you understand the reason for the gratitude or apology that is being demanded. My parents never once said "Please" or "thank you" to us children when I was growing up and never once did any of us receive an apology from a parent for acting out of line or saying something hurtful out of anger. My father always said he was raising us the way he was raised - it was good enough for him, so it would be good enough for us. I learned a lot about parenting from the way I was raised. I learned what not to do and made a conscious effort to break the cycle. If you want your kids to show respect, treat them with respect. If you want them to learn to say, "Please," "Thank you" and "I'm sorry" then be prepared to say those things to them whenever appropriate. Children are human beings, not second-class citizens and they feel just as we did at that age. I know some parents who can't seem to pass a single day without yelling or criticizing their kids. I try to make a point of laughing with my children every day. My parenting experience has been a great success.Mandy Whitehttp://www.amazon.com/Mandy-White/e/B004IOCQ1U/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-18471249401191180432012-04-19T00:15:27.594-07:002012-04-19T00:15:27.594-07:00Thank you, Jeff. I wasn´t sure, I wanted to share ...Thank you, Jeff. I wasn´t sure, I wanted to share that post, because it comes very close to being too intimite. I chose to share it, because I think there is an important message here: It´s not easy fighting against what is inside of you, but it´s important to do it and it really CAN be done...Per Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-63892772252940597182012-04-18T08:51:43.103-07:002012-04-18T08:51:43.103-07:00Strong point. Well stated.Strong point. Well stated.Deep Thoughts, Shallow Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04586738154376681194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-87441748391776017192012-04-17T23:34:48.625-07:002012-04-17T23:34:48.625-07:00Thanks, Mark. And what a great idea to read to you...Thanks, Mark. And what a great idea to read to your mother! It has a certain 'closing the cycle' thing over it. Like a sort of giving back to your mother, what she´s given to you... I like that!Per Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-20790385098672830082012-04-17T09:20:51.890-07:002012-04-17T09:20:51.890-07:00excellent advice. I actually did this in reverse. ...excellent advice. I actually did this in reverse. When my mother was very sick, and dying, she could not read anymore. She always liked to read. So, everyday I would read her book to her. I think we connected on a level we had not since I was a child. It was a great thing to do, and something I will not forget.Mark Deutschhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02657964285111110546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-5751719689732712252012-04-13T11:50:51.171-07:002012-04-13T11:50:51.171-07:00Yeah, you´re right about that. A cycle CAN be brok...Yeah, you´re right about that. A cycle CAN be broken. In fact, I can say almost the same thing as your 'friend' from the coffee shop: "I was spanked when I was a kid and the result was that I was indifferent to other peoples feelings for most of my childhood and by the age of 11 I wanted to kill myself. Only through a miracle at the age of 14, I changed my oppinion of myself and thus of others. Today, I am happy to say that even though I still have to fight the urge to smack my kids, when things get really heated up, I always win!"<br /><br />So: yes! the cycle CAN be broken!Per Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-87543672560832123222012-04-13T11:29:34.897-07:002012-04-13T11:29:34.897-07:00I had this discussion in a coffee shop once, with ...I had this discussion in a coffee shop once, with a guy who got very heated and angry and at one point he said "I was spanked and it didn't do *me* any harm" and my response was one of those rare times you say exactly what needs to be said, and it was "yeah it did; it made you want to beat *your* kids." It's that simple. As with all abuses of power, it's a cycle, so it can be broken.David Antrobushttp://www.the-migrant-type.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-6230902377671402912012-04-05T00:55:42.771-07:002012-04-05T00:55:42.771-07:00Thanks, William. Glad you enjoyed this. And yes, y...Thanks, William. Glad you enjoyed this. And yes, you´re right that I should´ve mentioned Yggdrasil, the tree of life, which is very important in Norse Mythology. I´ll get it in when updating the post. The funny thing with Yggdrasil is the fact that it´s importance is not in accordance with how uch it´s mentioned in the myths. There no doubt that it´s very important, but for some strange reason it´s not mentioned in the creational myth at all and as far as I know it´s origin is only mentioned once, namely in the prophecy of Voelven.<br /><br />And the squirrel? I´d have to look further into that one, because I´ve not come across it in the texts I´m working with at the moment, but only remember it faintly from earlier readings...<br /><br />Thanks for commenting...Per Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-79992961268032842302012-04-04T16:24:44.956-07:002012-04-04T16:24:44.956-07:00What an enjoyable post--great intro/reference! I w...What an enjoyable post--great intro/reference! I would add only Yggdrasil as the axis that holds the whole thing together (and upon which lives my favorite character of all--the squirrel who carries the messages around).<br /><br />Good on you for bringing this to a wider audience. These myths really put a lie to the idea that people were boring or lacked a sense of humor in the past. They're also hauntingly beautiful, and seem much more like our world today than many myths I know of.<br /><br />Thanks!wreichardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348131614578658632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2937979309861131370.post-79297870999921666692012-04-01T10:31:57.564-07:002012-04-01T10:31:57.564-07:00Glad, you were inspired. In fact, as I go deeper a...Glad, you were inspired. In fact, as I go deeper and deeper into all of this, surprise after surprise emerges. Why is it, that Saturday, as the only day of the week, does not seem to come from Norse mythology. In Danish, the day is called Loerdag and as I understand it, the translation could be "Payday" meaning that this was the day of the week, where workers were paid for their work, but Saturday sounds more like something coming from Greek mythology, as in Satyr or Saturn...???Per Holbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079712540712231883noreply@blogger.com